~In fatal Palm Springs shooting, 19-year-old son accused of killing mom
~A woman fatally shot her 17-month-old son and her husband, then tried to take her own life at their home
~Woman accused in fatal shooting of boyfriend’s 7-year-old son
~Man is charged with counts of first-degree murder after he gunned down his ex-wife and their children on Christmas Day
~A man killed his mother and then fired more than 100 rounds at police as her body lay in a yard during an -hour standoff before killing himself
~A mother was arrested and charged with shooting her 17-year-old son during an argument
~mother plotted, killed daughter’s fiancé to stop marriage
the list just goes on and on….
~then there is the long list of women teachers sexing up the students, that seems to be an endless string of such events.
“THE 50 MOST INFAMOUS FEMALE TEACHER SEX SCANDALS” that’s just the highly publicized.
I guess if the global atrocities were listed on a weekly or monthly basis, the list would be too long to read.
Maybe the best scenario for people is.. to “take time to learn each other” and not get hung up on some fancy instance, or image, and actually “find out about the reality of individuals”.
People do simple minded stuff – when trying to build relationships- instead of communicating like ” adults” openly and clearly.
Many people know that money becomes an issue in their lives, whether they have it or have none, long before they meet another person. It just might be beneficial and logical to talk to each other, to understand how each other “thinks about money”. Then it might just be beneficial to talk and find out, if each one respects the other as “an individual”, not as something to be owned or to own.
It might even benefit people to talk about “expectations”… “What do you expect from the other? can you handle your own personal issues without expecting the other person to do it for you? Do you know the religious or faith based thoughts of the other? What do you know of your own religious or faith based thoughts? Do you share those interactively.
when it comes to sex… just making eyes at each other is not enough, are you able to actually “talk” about what you like, are you able to say what you want, are you able to be honest with each other about your sexual considerations and thoughts?
What kind of chores do you expect from the other? Do you like to work and cover your contribution as a portion, or do you expect someone else to your portion for you?
do you barter sex as if its a game tool? Do you treat the other like a sex toy?
Do you attack the other if they don’t give or do what you want, or give or meet your desired expectation? If you have to get or do things for yourself, that you wanted or expected from another, are you vengeful, because you had to do it yourself?
Do you carry a grudge ? How long do you carry a grudge? do you make it a vendetta to get back at some you think may have disappointed your expectations or wants?
Not only will these questions people, learn each others, it can an individual learn about themselves. It just might people, not to be so quick to “blame” the others, when they can see clearly their own actions and reactive actions.
If your mate has and property before you meet them, why do you think you have a right to any of it? If you have or property before you meet some, do you want to give them rights to the and property you had before you met them? Do you believe only “jointly created property and jointly created is to be shared if you split ? Do you realize, you have no right to profit gains makes from or property they had before they met you? Do you realize, that you would not want to give the rights to any profit on or property you had before you met the other person.
If there are kids, what role and responsibility do you want to take on, and what do you want to share?
Considering the volume of people, breaking up, fighting, and killing each other, and killing the family… it might be a good thing to “talk about some of these things” before people start making relationship agreements to be each others mate.
Me personally, I would not think I’m due any of a woman’s money, that she had before she met me, nor the profits she gained from her money while she is with me. ONLY, “joint investments” and profits from Joint investments should be split, and that should be done fairly.
I also don’t think if one has worked before they met their mate and invested in their pension before they met their mate, then there should be no 50% of the pension going to anyone. If anything, only the portion % during the time they were together.
No one should profit from the other, because the relationship did not work. Nor should one expect to get any proceeds from one they no longer want to be with.
Child support should be paid, by whom ever does not have the kids in their home. Nor do I think there should be an 50% time here and 50% time there, because children need “stability”. Visitor agreements are fine, it is up to the people involved to make that determinations in the kids best interest.
I just read that one state now will consider ‘Pets” in divorce. But again, if they were my pets before or her pets before, the pets should go to the one who initially owned the pets. If they got the pet after marriage, then they should work it out, they know who was the more focused care taker of the pet.
Life is such a thing.. that it is necessary that people “communicate about many of such things, before they make agreements of relationship, or marriage.
No one expects it to go bad, but reality is, not all marriage work, so… as people, it is important to “talk about many things” before any commitments are made. It is necessary to “write it out” and both sign it.
People claim it takes the romance out of a relationship. Well, it should not take any more romance away, than signing a marriage certificate. They are both and all documents of legality when it comes to marriage and when it comes to divorce.
I don’t have wealth or such, but I also don’t expect to become wealthy upon someone else money either, whether in marriage or in divorce.
Some people don’t like it that I talk about a variety of such things, but I have had many friends, who have come to talk about these very same things, when in the heat of divorce, and all of such things, they did not talk about while before marriage or during marriage.
Everyone should want a mate that is “open to talk about such things”.. and do it honestly and fairly. No person should feel “trapped”, or be caught in a situation where they can’t go on with their lives, because of issues where one wants to take from the other what is not truly theirs.
I never cared whether a woman had money or no money. The point of being together would be about sharing the maintenance and upkeep as a family, while together. What ever she had before, remains hers, and what ever I had before remains being mine, if the relationship does not work. Only what we mutually built together, is the only thing that is to be considered for dividing.
Men who don’t want women to work, is also making a choice that if the relationship fails, that he is responsible to give to her half of what was earned during the relationship, because he prohibited her from working and earning.
The simple thing of the Adam and Eve story is, what is real.. Man and Woman, become the “help mates of each other when they make agreement to be in relationship and marriage”. Not either obligated to do this or that as in selfishly scripted specifics, but; to help when and as they can, because each person should always remain being self responsible as an individual, therefore, they are then capable of being and remaining as a help mate.
Maybe the pomp and pageantry of elaborate weddings may put more fiction in the relationship than is necessary. It should be simply a gathering of friends and families, coming together to wish the best to the two people who are making a marriage.
Most people know… there is NO “Perfect Relationship”, the agreement is about ‘working together as help mates” who profess to share loving with each other.
There can’t be loving without first there being “honesty” and “communication”.
Anything short of that, is just the stage of “infatuation”. Work through the infatuation, and get to know the facts of self and the other, long before there is a agreement to become “married”. It may just work better in the long term for both.
Sadly, that level of patience often gets over-ridden by the glee of fancy about each other.
The vows discuss many things, and the crucial things it discusses, are often the things that bring relationships to an end. such as sickness, loss of money, life challenges, and other such things. These things have to be considered, as they are part of life that may befall anyone. Therefore, understanding the vows is quite important, for both to know exactly how the other feels and the capability of each other to uphold those things. Still things may not work out.
But, at least they will have discussed much, and may be able to part on amicable terms.
Love is filled with “everything”… from the good to the indifferent, and it will depend on how communication functions, as to how it turns out.
I meet people who have been married more than 50 yrs, I always congratulate them, and just recently while shopping, I met a woman, who said she and her husband had been married 54 yrs…. but she said… he is a good man, and I’ve always seen him as a good man, and it was not really difficult because he treats her well. I noticed, the affectionate tone in her voice, which indicates she too, treats him well.
No one can predict the future.
Therefore, in life, it is not uncommon for people to be married a 2nd time.
Quote from Will Smith to his wife Jada Pickett-Smith:
“20 Years Ago Today we held hands and walked naively down that aisle. Here’s what I’ve learned since. . Love is Like Gardening… I have learned to focus on HELPING you to BLOSSOM into what YOU want to be (into what you were born to be)… Rather than Demanding that you become what my Fragile Ego needs you to be. . I’ve learned to take pleasure in Nourishing YOUR dreams… Rather than wrestling with you to Fulfill my Selfish Needs & Satiate My Insecurities. . I have learned that Love is Listening. Love is Giving. Love is Freedom. . Happy Anniversary, My Queen! I am forever Devoted to Nurturing your Deepest Truth.”.
Reason is a good capability in mankind, but it also requires, “base values” gained from upbringing, experience, knowledge, thinking ability and personality.
There is a great many who are ‘inflexible”, driven by various biases, bigotry and many other groomed influences. Often some of such types, give off signals of their rigidity and present many aspects in their daily living, which shows them to be mechanistically stiff.
For a great many, who do embrace the presence of compassion, who will use their ability of reasoning to make concessions for a variety of concerns and interest.
Some things we find reason to “let it go”… in doing so, at times, it means also cutting ties. Not everyone is as “advertised”…. and some people have agenda’s which consider nothing but their self concerned interest, as well as being driven by raw vanity, greed, envy, resentment and other such character types.
This leads back to the original post… “the need to communicate” , and some character types can be discerned from external viewing of conduct, and in such cases, we make instinctive decisions as well as other selective choices as to whether we will have interaction or not.
We’ve seen in society among things people do.. where some ‘return over and over to an abusive relationship”… it happens to men, and it happens to women where they seek ways to justify the other persons abuse, some even give blame upon self, as a means to justifying accepting abuse.
I’ve read many stores of people who are irrationally cruel, who lock kids in closets, cages, and other horrible conditions, as well as many other acts people do to others. This includes the wide range of mental infections they work to instill in others.
Society today, has so many people who do atrocious things to kids, as well as others…. and the wide range of the internet has made it possible to spread the news of the vast array of human abuses, depicted from around the world.
We can read many things and some of it is unfathomable how one could be so cruel and driven by such levels of inhumanity toward and upon and against others. There is historical documentation that continue to have added content everyday of these vile acts, which seem to have a cycle of perpetuation’s in people, homes, families and even within organizations and groups.
There is a need for spiritual principles which promote the respect of humanity, environments, systems and organizations of civil society as well as individualized self conduct.
It takes much work within self to learn and manage how we control our emotionally driven impulses.
We can learn so much in many ways from many things:
Sometimes within living, unfortunate as it becomes to be, it take tribulations, pains, losses and other variable of challenges to move us from what many have been as to things with elements of vanity driving us…within aims that drove our initial choice.
Then when trouble and changes come, with its pains and pings, we move through to its truths, to get to a place, where we become better equipped to make “spiritually motivated choices”.
it takes time, as discussed in the initial posting, to “learn each other”. Then is when we find and choose a “love that works”…
We as People often get lots of things caught within the spins in what we think makes life… Great and Fulfilling.
First !!! we must come to learn – “No one gets everything”… yet through spirit we can learn to appreciate many things, and in moderation we can enjoy the things within our life and this world.
We always get a mix of the good, the bad and the indifferent. It’s up to us, to discern what we will give our focus unto as well as what become the choices for and of our spiritual motivations.
Life always brings us to points, that we have to come to learn, to make “Spiritually motivated choices”.
Choices that has less to do with money, image, status, title, sex, and all such things as such things are often connected to vain concerns.
Often we don’t even realize that many times our choice may have been driven by some sort of vanity, until pains awaken us through its challenges and calamities of various sorts.
. Then…. We come to learn the true value of what is “companionship” for the sake of our spiritual needs of self, to share and have shared the spiritual motivations and reality within and of as well as throughout our relationships.
It’s a hard lesson in life to learn many things and among such learning is, to learn:
Money is not the answer, it is simply a tool of convenience, it may to some provide convenience, and to others it can become a vice. Again, its up to the person to discern the focus they will give their spiritual motivations as it concerns money.
The same is true with sex, Sex is not the Answer. We come to learn that the delusion of think that getting more is suppose to make one happy, we over time come to find such thinking is a fallacy. We have to overcome the delusion that being pretty is suppose to makes ones sex organ function better than another, is one of the greatest fallacies that plagues man and woman. Such thinking has robbed many of the natural passions of which is natural to the spiritual appreciation of what is sex, and how it fits within life and relationships. No one can “screw themselves into happiness’.
If more sex was suppose to make people more happy, the sex workers and porn stars would be the happiest people on earth, but truth is: Time proves them to live through miseries and loose the value of even their conscience self, and some never gain awareness of their spiritual self, and some loose even the concept of value of their spiritual self, and struggle like crazy through much hell… trying to learn how to regain their spiritual self. . I’d say anyone and maybe everyone, should go read the stories of the “after porn life” for the people who have been the biggest stars in that industry”.. or the after life of sex workers when youth and other such things are it is not a pretty picture.
The Titans’ of the 1800’s and Early 1900’s found that wealth beyond belief did not make them happy, many became philanthropist, and came to the conclusion that to die with such volume of wealth was a greater tragedy, as many of the things they did to obtain it. They saw need to try and give back, to seek to balance out some good, for the damages they knew it cost, for them to build various industries, so they set up massive foundations and set out in a race, to see who could give back the most, but more so, who could do it in ways that benefits many generations to come.
Thus so, again… we see the premise of the “good, the bad and the indifferent” and the pursuit of Spiritual motivations becoming the desired pursuit of individual, to discern the need among the choices, to seek means and ways to do good. Not just for themselves but for others.
Therefore, in the tragedy challenges within and of relations and the trial and tribulations of divorces that some encounter. It still comes down to the spiritual motivations within ones own soul, that become the salvation that helps them find the more spiritual self within themselves.
It does not matter what ethnicity, or gender, nor the age one is… the nature of challenge in relationships and self is the same. The challenge is, for spiritual bonding within building and sustaining love and making relationships that have communion and unity within spiritual selves.
Yes, many carry many pains from broken or lost relations or relations that met with loss. But, one cannot get back to base to be and live fully, until they open up, first with themselves about what are their ache’s… One can’t heal what they have not taken the choice to acknowledge. Facing such pains and fears is the first step to rebuilding ones spirit.
Some express and open up about their challenges, and in doing so, they are stepping toward finding means to heal their situations, so they can move on to build love in their lives that fulfills the spiritual nature within themselves, that they many feel open and motivated to share it. They tread with cautions of care, as they have come to know the need for spirit filled companionship, and the want to honor the spirituality of loving.
Others may wrap themselves within forms of “wrath”, where they carry an anger that lingers and in the lingering, it takes more from them, than the exercise of wrath can give unto them. A bitter heart will have much challenge with trying to love, they will have many walls that they can’t surmount, which must be removed, before they can move forward freely to love. That means, “growth”!!!
When they desire with a spirit filled passion to grow from ad through the learning, they move on then… with the openness and willingness to love again.
(It is not always easy, and often it is not easy at all, it takes facing things within self, and moving past the game of “blame”, because there is often not a clear answer in the blame game… It’s a spin, that takes one in a downward spiral. And they wonder…. how did they get so far from the ability to “want to build love again”. This in no way, means “casually dismiss what one must give time to learn”…. it simply means; invest in the learning, that one is not trapped by times passage extending itself, to the point it deprives one of the opportunity to give into their years of life, the engagements of loving.
No one can go back and get yesterday, nor can they go back and change what was within yesterday. But one can learn much from yesterday, to make better today, and prepare themselves to seek out better tomorrows. its a choice, that only each “individual” makes for and within themselves. No one else can make that choice for another.
Some hold out based on many things, but one may well consider, what of vanity is within those things… when they figure it out, they can then move on to seek a better “spiritual bonding”. There are some who even when they choose, they are filled with “reservations”, always looking for the “next best things”… be it based on money, looks, or other elements of vanities fancy.
Truth is simple… Look at “older couples”… or Older people in general.. the “youthful image has by such time, changed”, because that is the nature of life. Therefore… is one base it on temporary things, they may be choosing a temporary situations. The same is true of money, “it comes and it goes”, that’s the nature of what is money, it has no value if it does not circulate, as it was by design made to circulate, therefore, it may at time present itself in many “temporary conditions”, some times its more, sometimes it less, sometimes it available, and sometimes it unavailable. And when such temporary things change, people are finding themselves in a variety of loveless situations. Or; looking back at nothing more than a string of many broken relations. Such ones many times, look back, with a mind filled with blames upon the others, but truth finds, they may have learned little of themselves and what role they had in the string of broken relations. If one looks at simple things that tell big stories about what is truths…
When a relation is new, people hit the bed every time they want to be together, but in the span of long term relationships, their bed time engagements, may become something that is not a daily or nightly activity. When age comes, it may even find that it become more infrequent, but by then, they’ve build bonds, that go far and beyond the urgency’s of sexual activities they felt when they first met if it was based more on sex, when the frequency changes, so does their will to stay in the relation, because they have based it on temporary things.
There is no escape from the Truth, other than to embrace it, and become melded within it. that means… on has to come to terms with self, and find the spiritual meaning within themselves of how they consider and hold care for the spirituality of companionship and the respectful grace to think in terms of honor for what is each relationship, they may have attempted. Every relationship has become a part of making whom we as an individual is, at this given time. Therefore, it is of best to find what was good about it and hold that dear, and learn from what was bad about it, and grow from it.
No one can go back and get yesterday, nor can they go back and change what was within yesterday. But one can learn much from yesterday, to make better today, and prepare themselves to seek out better tomorrows. its a choice, that only each “individual” makes for and within themselves. No one else can make that choice for another.
“Strange Stuff and Weird Things”– have consumed many, and caused much tragedy, and destroyed and taken many lives. Because so many, “refuse to think beyond their on vanity, or learn more of themselves through their tribulations and pains” and have resorted to take out vengeance upon and against others and themselves.
Such ones… have by such time… lost the meaning and value of Spiritual Learning, Spiritual Growth, and they have fought away Spiritual Compassion…. And the result has been, and continues to be for such types… a life of Strange Stuff and Weird Things. “They’ve by such point, become a destroyer, of self, and the lives of others, by their mind of wrath upon and against, the same ones, they once thought they loved. They failed to build through spiritual understanding… they based the relation on all the wrong things, and their sense of self measure was based upon worldly things, not spiritual truths.
Looking back, wondering and thinking, even to consider what might have been, is interesting, but; it is wise not to fret, but to be of thanks for those whom one has loved has found a wonderful life, far and beyond the dreams once held of being with them. When Years Pass on By.
This is an amazing thing to come into peaceful understanding, as some never find such, due to holding anguish over things which cannot be changed, cannot be re-arranged and cannot be repeated as if to do over. It means, one has learned of love as being something amazingly wonderful which cannot be contained, only beheld within the heart.
How wonderful it is to have found and held the beauty of the moments shared, while knowing it was of a wonder only God brought into being, to give unto each what God had put within each, to give and share unto and with each other for the time of such a paring. Yet all the while, preparing them even then, for a lifetime with wonderful knowings of loves realism. When Years Pass on By.
Such a wonderful gift and treasure God made possible to be; of which one can hold fast unto as a learning, a knowing and a gift of love experiences shared.
It’s almost like the seasons, they come, bringing often more than we know, but what it brings, gives and bestow for us to behold…. last a lifetime. Not unlike the bountiful things brought and given within the seasons, which come, and too, come to pass..leaving a lifetime of Gods gifts a part of what makes us into whom we are.
The Sun is always shining !!!!! we may not think or know so at times when the clouds are grey, we may not connect that it shines even by way of the reflections of the moon, this too is how love is; once it has entered within what is the make up of us.
How might I speak that you hear, is too, how might you listen that you hear, and how might grace of understanding bless you, that you know. Love is everlasting!!!!!!
Even, When Years Pass on By…..
We work on it from the moment of our birth, unknown of the labors to be work, we engage to learn, to move our body parts, express our thoughts and on to and through the many things we interact within our passing moments of building a life.
We gain the ability to focus, learn the works it takes to gain clarity, as well as learn within ourselves to have a soul that embraces the compassion’s of charity. When and as we learn the real meaning of charity, which is “giving with care to extend that care unto others”, we become one who is building a life which encompasses the continual learning of grace.
It’s not an ease work to endeavor building a life – we have dreams, desires, fantasies and then there is the mix or what is “reality”. Sometimes we find triumph and sometimes we find further challenges, we learn the meaning of what it is to persevere, and things begin to develop. Often times, we can see our dreams have come to pass, through the “review”, we too; find it is never of the perfection we imagined, but it is of the reality which came to be.
All together, if we hold firm to the truths of loves labors and life’s works, we can then come to appreciate the presence of Gods truths giving us more than we often have taken the time to acknowledge. Therefore, it is unto us to Keep God First, that our steps in building a life, is of and for; as well unto the graces of Gods Glory.
Each moment that passes is of what goes into building our life, each moment we look forward unto with positive aims and graceful consideration, is too, our pursuits in building a life.
Understanding these things in their simplest realism helps us know our every moment is precious. In Building a Life.
Be ever thankful unto God for such a blessing of opportunity to do so.
It is such a powerful composition of “everything”. Some of us have experienced love in many ways over the course of our living, family love, friends, lovers, artistry love and the endless perspectives of which love is experienced and expressed.
What we may take pleasure, pride and value to know is, “Every experience of Love’s Expanse” enriches us and becomes a part of whom we are and whom we will continue to become.
Discount none of whom you have loved and shared love for the good things it gave into your being, but equally so, the challenging things help us learn temperament, cautions, tolerances and many other things, including so much about ourselves as too, of loves meanings in our lives.
Often we have to step through the emotional whirlwind when these loves end their term of interaction. When we trudge through, as time and its passing come; we too, come to understand so much more about ourselves and others. We strengthen our principles and if we can avoid the anguish spectrum and not hold resentment and bitterness, then we can embrace the joys and pleasures of what we have gained through the experiences.
Love is always the teacher and the preacher within our soul, when we hold fast to appreciate and come to re-appreciate its wondrous gifts.
We, many of us had the “young loves”, they have great impact in our lives – We learn so much about ourselves and we come to learn so much about others; and the experiences of and through their impacts and their emotions as well as many things not even of consciences awareness continue to improve us, as the essence of the one(s) we loved reside within us for the term of our living – overall – making us better in being whom we’ve become.
God gives us these experiences at various times in our living, both in long term and short term spans, some may find itself connected and remain connected in active interactive loving for the span of their collective lives. Treasure each as being “Beautiful”, as love and its experiences is a great gift Gods glory has blessed us to have and experience.
In our early years we learn the meanings of “words”, these words are later combined to make subject material. What a wonderful evolution to have the ability to write down our thoughts, our remembrances, our ideas, our fantasies and record our history, among the many many usages of the written words, and too, spoken words.
Today, so much is lost in the sound bits, the short blast of 140 character communication scripts, and other elements which come along with ‘how” technology is sometimes used.
There are wonderful usages for and of technology, of which has been of great benefit, and some has brought a variety of abusive uses which become detriments. Be of care to interpret words, their contextual meanings and their usage and placement within what is communicated.
Learning to embrace the artistry of words and thus learning to indulge the fantastic function of reading, as well too, listening and most certainly gaining the understanding of perspective to embrace comprehension. These things of such basics has propelled mankind to do, create and improve many things, while opening the mind to explore the once unaware angles and trajectories of thought and inquiry. We become to be better individuals.
We can speak or read a words and it can inspire many thoughts in many directions, though when we read with concept of perspective intent, we can follow the flow of what is being communicated, to grasp the aim to understand what is communicated.
Everyday there is so much more to learn, it includes new things, old things and past things and helps us think about future things, as well as it can be a joy “relearning” things we thought we know, by the grasp of seeing it presented in a different perspective with a different angle of trajectory.
Let not an inflamed emotion rob one of what is available to be learned, let not the frozen like mindset deny one the ability to grow and expand in conscience awareness, for learning is always an ongoing process. It’s like the wonders of refinement, what is refined makes often times what is better than what was unrefined, therefore expanding capability and improving functional application is yours to embrace.
When we – as the adults of the society_ become to value among things we consider top priority, then we are open to learn, thus we too, are motivated to help our offspring’s to embrace the value of learning.
Learn new words, learn to speak and utilize new words, and work on ones voice and diction, that one may speak words clearly. This will help with the usage of “context”, therefore expanding our understanding, usage and ability to comprehend the usage of words. Thus so, expanding out ability to be and become improved in our effective aims of communication.
Learning is living and within living there is always the opportunity, for experiences in Learning.
This is not a laugh a minute, patronizing writing, so if you are looking for a ‘feel good” happy as a lark reading, this is not it… This is about concerns within what is our society and community of people, and the betterment for the children who make up what will be the future. If you have no concern for those things, then this is not something you want to spend your time to reflect upon, or explore …
Look in the eyes of your children”.. you may be awakened
If each parent look in the eyes of their children, they may learn many things.
Let’s start with schools, if you look in the eyes of your children, you may learn why they don’t perform as people did years ago, in academic endeavors.
One their schools have cut out all the programs that help build cultural and developmental pride.
They no longer have a band, they don’t have a choir, they don’t have 4H clubs, Girl Scouts and Boy Scout programs are gone, they don’t put on plays, and have no idea of what a drama class is, they don’t teach civic’s anymore, there is no sports teams at the elementary schools, there are not sports team at 75% of the junior high schools, there is no cheer leading programs, no tennis programs, no golf programs.. All this has been stripped away, all to try and turn them into accountants and bookkeepers, who result to have developed no social concept of self value, they have been robbed of cultural grooming programs, Arts and Crafts does not exist in many schools. and basic Home Economic is not only void, it forgot to teach about basic financial management.
Instead of a society that is progressing , We’ve regressed so far, and all we can think to do is blame it on the kids.
All these programs taught social values, each of them taught team working, and how to function in a society with other human beings, they taught the value of community, as well as gave kids something to belong to, of which they could take pride. When these programs were removed, Gang increased, delinquency increased, and kids created their own networks. Because of our failure and disregard to sustain and maintain these programs in our educational facilities.
Many educators became so elite minded, they forgot about these rudimentary things, all they could see was to groom corporate spokes, that could ride title for the sake of a dollar and status. but the humanity factor was tossed under the bus.
We cut programs because we say they cost too much, but it cost of 4 times as much for delinquency, and every other social malfunction which results because we have so little regard for positive and interactive social grooming programs.
Even churches across the city, with these elaborate facilities, that remains locked 5-6 days a week, all so the Pastor can claim how big of a building their church houses, but they have not functional social programs, that truly remain an open flow for children to utilize. Church after church, became no more than ‘Real Estate Gambits”, of buy and sell, and then move out on the outskirts and build new ones, but no one can fill those which already exist. We never developed such a concept of ‘associate Ministry, because every pastor wants his own kingdom, rather rather than to think in terms, of Gods Kingdom, which is based on Unity, not denominational divides. Even people today, talk more about the pastor than about the God the pastor should be directing them to honor.
Young people will gravitate to church, but they are not going to rush to “Fire and Brimstone methodology of teaching”, unfortunately some church are simply not willing to change to attract these young people. young people want to learn what is good, what is right and what is positive, they don’t want to be beat over the head, but simply taught the lesson of wisdom, to put to functional use in their lives.
In Schools for the past 25 years kids have been telling educators, that the method of teaching is not only dis-interesting, but it become a bore in a world where technology has exposed them to many levels of functional application. Kids have demonstrated by their quick grasp of technology, how advanced their ability is to learn, and they have show, they excel by interactive learning. Not just sitting with a book and listening to a lecture, that has no time to discuss anything, because of a scoring mandate. Which moves the lesson plan along to satisfy legislators, while it leaves the children behind, in unlearned situations.
Teachers can’t teach because they are mandated to push “rote memorization”, when Americans learn by interactive involvement, they want to know, the who, what when, where and certainly the “why’s”.. But today educations does not deal with it. The only response the Student gets is, being told, “We will get to it later”, but later never comes.
Young kids at many of the inner city schools do not even get free time recreation breaks, they are controlled as if they are in a boot camp and many are not even in the 4th or 5th grade. they are herded to the cafeteria, and then whisked back to the classroom, and people wonder why they suffer from Attention deficit, and have un manageable energy, which is then exercised as class room disruptions.
No schools in higher income neighborhoods function this way, because the parents won’t allow it, and the students will make sure their parents know their human dignity liberty is stripped away, and they are being processed liked robots. But this is done in the less financial and poor economic neighborhood schools as a scripted program and process. The kids are considered to be trouble students, and then eyes of the adults convey that to them, and they respond in kind.
Look into the eyes of the children, and much can be seen. when kids have programs they can join, such as sports, band, drama, dance, choir, 4h. Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, Science programs, debate teams, swim teams, soccer, tennis, golf, and some of the sports that are only found at high income community schools. Yet, we wonder why, kids rebel so much, when they are made to feel inferior by the things which has been taken from them. they are made inferior by the opportunity programs, that is no longer a part of the school system. Yet, we wonder why they are obese, and have no physical involvement in anything.
We are the Problem, as being the Adults of this society. We allowed the status of material things, the status of job and title, and the claim that money makes us more than we are as social human beings. We’ve become so obsessed into these things, we have diminished even the function of family engagement.
We’ve allowed greed of every sort to invade the industry of this nation, to the point, that we ourselves have become indentured servants to a system, that gouge us and strip away product quality and services. Not because the company can’t make a profit, but because the executive ranks, want to make a kings ransom, or sell away the company and collect a bounty, while stripping and ripping and leaving American citizens unemployed. We sit idle and watch executive compensations, imply that we are worthless as workers, when the executives pay themselves 100’s of time more than the average work, and then take away the basic benefits of the employees.
Even the simplicity of Lunch breaks are not taken, and people made to work an extra hour, for lunch, and this has cut away time for parents to be home with their children, or to go to their children after school functions, or to see to it their kids get to and from practices or participate in programs at their schools.
The more we swallow these things, in silence, the more poor society becomes in both the household economics, poor in social values, and there is almost no such things as community unity. its simply a group of houses in a common area, where people play status measurement against and upon each other, about who’s got a new car, and what kind of clothes they wear, and how fresh is the paint on their home.
We created this madness, the children did not create it, it is the Adults. We think today, the only thing that matters, to is buy the kid the latest fashion costume, or gadget, and claim that we are the best parent, because of who’s kid has the most gadgets, and who’s kid is so elite they don’t even have to take out the trash or cut the lawn, or rake the leaves, or even to clean their own room.
Yet, we wonder what happen to society… Well, what happen is the Adults lost concern for the things which build a better citizenry. some Areas do not even have a movie house, for kids to frequent, but they have enough nail shops and hair salons, or Circle K markets, and they are surrounded by enough Wal marts. there is no such thing as a small craft shop, or a repair shop of any kind that a kid can get an after school job. there is no more community business, that contribute to community center little league teams. But here we are with a state motto as being “Sportsman Paradise’ – we should be purely ashame as to what we have allowed to erode.
We now have a society of obese adults, because status and looking what some call professional, in designer attire, has made people unaware of the need for physical activity. the delusion is so deep, that people fix their hair, or slap on a wig, and paint their nails and buy a designer label, and forget that their body mass is expanding astronomically.
Unfortunately today, we have women in mass volume who have lost the appreciation of their natural selves, and wigs dominate the landscape, if one is in a situation where a wig is used for a various problems of some sort, that is not much of something to address. but when people simply choose a wig over, taking time to groom their hair, then that tells much of a story.
The kids in turn replicate this process, and we see excessive obesity among the young people, it is so high, that it is a national security risk to the whole of the nation.
Today, we see parents go to schools, physically looking any kind of way, it never dawns on those parents who do so craziness, to consider how they invoke an embarrassing situation upon their kids. it shows, that when the parents has not the dignity of mindset to properly groom and prepare themselves to address the school their child attends, then what else do they ignore to consider as it relates to their child and themselves for that matter.
Sadly as a nation of people, we elect politicians, and they go to the State Capital as if they are a Guru, in turn, ignore the voice of the people, and go so far as to pass legislation that impact how to destroy education programs. They should deal strictly with assuring that funding is provided to the school districts, not try and mandate how educations should be engaged on a district level. Nor telling districts what programs they must cut, and taking money away from cultural and social grooming programs within schools.
Most of the Politicians kids go to private school, yet, they are in the capital dictating public school programs, when they have no respect for it, otherwise if they did their kids would be attending public schools.
Voters need to be mindful of these things when they cast votes, until we rid this menace from the Political process. You did not send them to the capital to dictate how schools education is conducted, you sent them there to assure that funding is allocated to support schools systems, not to sit and monitor the grades of students and play jockey games with the funding, because they want scores, for their political benefit. at the expense of children, and providing them a full rounded educational experience.
Politicians won’t address banking rip offs and the collusive rips and strip interest rate games banks play, but they want to get involved in how your child is afforded an full service educational experience.
If Politicians, understand what matters, they would have put a cap and freeze on home interest rates, in the namesake of children, schools and community, because when they allow banks to create a climate of foreclosure, it directly takes away from taxes that support schools. and give that money to greedy bankers, by kicking people out of homes with exaggerated interest rates.
Society must learn how to connect the dots, and they will know quickly, how to fix the problems that face this society.
We can pay billions to fight wars we can’t win, but we can’t spend billions to improve our educational system, yet we wonder why we’ve fallen below 26th in the world as it relates to educations, and we’ve fallen off the charts in industrial stability.
Look in the eyes of your children”.. you may be awakened
They’ve been made to see a hopeless future – by our own folly.
This nation no longer respect the common worker, unless they are given a title of some sort, and this translates to bad situations for the children of today and their vision of being respected in the days of tomorrow.