To claim love is hard, one should first review their expectations

Love is the simplest thing in this world, that requires the usage of all that one is…
If anyone is having difficulty with finding love, working with love and appreciating and respecting love..
then they first need look only within themselves.

If you have not and do not find love in your life and someone to share it with, the problem of such failure to do so.. is 100% within you.

Often times people ignore the myriad of expectations they have circling in their mind, the many biases they have hidden behind their reasons and excuses.
many times people hide their greed and their malice behind expectations encircled in selfishness. cover over by the vanity which inflates their ego…

And still many are so driven to be self consumed by their looks or the shape of their body or the bargains they encircle sex within, until they can’t even see their own self centered motivations which spins them in circles, as they play a massive interconnected circle of manipulation games, all with a selfish intent and a self serving objective.

This symbol depicts the focus, which is many times at the core of broken relations

The inability to choose is often times the outward exposure of an inner self that wants much by the confusion of viewing many.

Love functions by choice, it is the choice you make as well as those you don’t make which determine what of love is within one’s life.



To Strengthen Love – Learn the Value of “Thinking and Communication”

Mostly people have to ‘think’ and “communicate”… the more honest and open they do it, without trying to be ‘clever, or catch phrase slick, the quicker and better they find even the truths of themselves.

Many people are ‘skimmer’, they want to skate along the surface with no thought nor regard for the foundation that is beneath the surface.. so they choose ‘brevity and catch phrase cliche and try and ride it to manipulate others.. Unaware they are in a self defeat mode as well.

The Web is full of people with “one liners”, but to date those one liners have not secured any love in their lives.. but they continue to push ahead thinking their ‘one liner wittiness will gain them something’, and what it keeps giving them is a mass of assumptions which result to being alone.

Every time you try to out wit and out smart your claimed mate, you only weaken the relationship.
Every time women try and dominate the man, she only weakens the relationship and make her own pathway to feeling loved and to be able to express loving becomes weakened.

Every time the man denies the concerns of mutual respectfulness of woman in the discussion about their relation, it will weaken the relations.  He need not succumb to whimsical nor manipulative chatter, but he must respond to honest and mutual compassionate regards.

Every time the sex bartering takes place, the disrespect of the sexual activity within the relationships is under assault.
For every moment that one thinks their sex organ is better than their mates sex organ.. the relationship is weakened.

Every time one think they are more important than their mate, the relationship is weakened.

Money won’t fix it, buying gift won’t fix it, and playing pretend to be affections won’t fix it..

Every time one thinks they are duping their mate, they have diminished respect for themselves and lessened the respect they have for their mate..

You can’t defecate on your food and then expect to have a nutritious and healthy meal.

The Golden Rule… is also the Rule of Love, that is why the Rule is Golden.

Love is initiated, love is built and love is given life, when people embrace and utilize the Golden Rule… by this simple rule, love then become not only easy to find, but easy to maintain once it is found.

Reviewing your agenda

Reviewing your agenda – may be the key’s to finding out how to build relationships. The first step is to be honest with self…

Relationships are natural beauty in human reality.. but it is “people who make it difficult’ –
If people could and would get – Material Agenda out of their considerations, and ‘get the barter sx mentality out of their agenda”… not only would men and women find out how amazingly wonderful each is, people will find that love will find many ways to connect people on many levels of respect and appreciations as simply individuals.

1. don’t get hung up on the look of your own face.
2. don’t get hung up on what money you have or don’t have.
3. stop thinking you can barter and manipulate with sx.
4. don’t let the pursuit of material things, make you a fool or malice driven.
5. don’t delude yourself into denying these choices must be made.
6. if you expect to find love…. you must first be true within yourself and its much easier to then be truthful and honest with others.

Review your Agenda..

Truth is a light that will shine on your pathway… or lies and denials will be the stones you stumble upon in the darkness of your own deceit.


if you have a problem with the challenges of “thinking”, then you should expect to have many problems within the pursuit of building loving relationships

if you have a problem with communication, then you will certainly defeat yourself in any attempt of claim to want to build a relationship.

If you have a problem with ‘honestly sharing sex with a self motivated interest, then you become much of your own enemy within relationships.

If you are just a taker, or just a giver, then you have already missed the point of what “Sharing” is all about.

if, you don’t have the mindset of being a help mate, you are probably a freeloader with too many expectation and a do nothing attitude.

If, you are looking for a fairy tale, then you need to become mature enough to learn how to deal with the up’s and down’s of reality and the truths of living and learning, and you certainly need to learn the process of growth involves, challenges.

if you think someone owes you something just for your presence, then you are already a fool unto yourself and will likely act a fool in any situation involved in what it takes to build relationships.

if you think your gender makes you more important than the person you are trying to relate with. then you have already doom the opportunity to build a relationship.

If you want love, first get rid of fools pride and the ignorance of vanity.

Reviewing your Agenda.… might reveal yourself unto yourself.

Don’t waste your youth in stupidly of vain selfishness and malicious ignorance of manipulative manner and demeanor, Realize: Youthfulness is a gift that allows you to share the vigor of life, that you may learn and experience the development of peaceful interactions and gain the gentleness of grace within love through the ages.
Or, you can waste your time … chasing your own shadow…

It’s great for those who learn that youth is not a time for callousness about life and love, nor is it something that can be wasted with games of various sorts.
Each day is an impression within what makes up the whole of an individual.

Sadly some take the looks of youth to be nothing more than a temp and tease game, and time finds them living in a foolishness of their own making. some throw away love, unaware they are tossing away the experience which has brought them to learn more of how to love, and brought them the challenges to learn how to develop a process of peacemaking, that they may come to know what is the force and strength that supports the essence of grace.

Sadly, today society teaches so many women to use their youth to sell themselves as cheap commodity and influence them to spend their time learning games of being a manipulator.. such things produce a mass of jaded individual, who become by their own guise self defeatist at love.

Too many young men get side tracked to think that by any mean of getting money will buy a delusion, and sadly many young men get scars and wounds that take a lifetime to heal, by chasing women based on the delusion of sex appeal, which become nothing more than a fools lure. he as well as she, become victims of their own vanity.

Too many young women seek the brute, and claim they want a man of gentleness, but when the man of gentleness comes, she kicks him as if he was a dirty rag and pass him by without even a second glance.. Then when the brute she sought becomes the monster she knew was hiding within, then she wants to cry foul and claim to be innocent… when the games they play backfire and the life wounds become fears, that prevent them from learning to love freely.  Time passes and age mounts, often filled with bitterness and the antics of a vengeful demeanor…  then relationship failure is solidified by such manner and means.

Some are easily misled by the delusion others put in their head, of what to barter themselves for, until they can’t think for themselves, and find misery wrapped in the delusions they chase. They cry foul, when they are guilt of choosing to indulge themselves in the delusions of many illusions.

If only – they could conceive to know, that : Youthfulness is a gift that allow one to share the vigor of life.

It certainly is not something to waste learning the ignorance of vanity and the arrogance of self defeat games.

Finding ‘Truths”


  • When a great truth once gets abroad in the world, no power on earth can imprison it, or prescribe its limits, or suppress it. It is bound to go on till it becomes the thought of the world.

Frederick Douglass, in a Speech to the International Council of Women (31 March 1888


Once you eliminate the impossible, whatever remains, no matter how improbable, must be the truth.

Sir Arthur Conan Doyle in “The Adventure of the Beryl Coronet”, spoken by the character Sherlock Holmes


If anyone could prove to me that Christ is outside the truth, and if the truth really did exclude Christ, I should prefer to stay with Christ and not with truth.

Fyodor Dostoevsky, in a letter To Mme. N. D. Fonvisin (1854), as published in Letters of Fyodor Michailovitch Dostoevsky to his Family and Friends (1914), translated by Ethel Golburn Mayne, Letter XXI, p. 7


  • Although I am a typical loner in daily life, my consciousness of belonging to the invisible community of those who strive for truth, beauty, and justice has preserved me from feeling isolated.

Albert Einstein, in “My Credo”, a speech to the German League of Human Rights, Berlin (Autumn 1932), as published in Einstein: A Life in Science (1994) by Michael White and John Gribbin, p. 262.


  • An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it. Truth stands, even if there be no public support. It is self sustained.

Mahatma Gandhi, Young India 1924-1926 (1927), p. 1285.


  • The truth comes as conqueror only because we have lost the art of receiving it as guest.

Rabindranath Tagore in The Fourfold Way of India (1924); this has become paraphrased as “Truth comes as conqueror only to those who have lost the art of receiving it as friend”.


  • Truth alone will endure, all the rest will be swept away before the tide of time. I must continue to bear testimony to truth even if I am forsaken by all. Mine may today be a voice in the wilderness, but it will be heard when all other voices are silenced, if it is the voice of Truth.

Mahatma Gandhi, Basic Education (1951), p. 89.


What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn’t make it worse. Not being open about it doesn’t make it go away. And because it’s true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn’t there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it.

Eugene Gendlin, “The Listening Manual” in Focusing (1978), p. 138


But at the end of the day, the truth is not determined by what makes you feel warm and safe. It is not determined by what gets you the most friends. It is not determined by what makes people be nice to each other. It is not determined by a cost-benefit analysis of holding a certain belief. It is determined by reality. And those who willingly compromise their understanding of reality still have to live in it. They just might find themselves without a decent map.

Zinnia Jones, “Those with No Allegiance to Reality” (2012-06-20)


  • Yet ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.                                     

Jesus in John 8:31.

  • Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth. As thou hast sent me into the world, even so have I also sent them into the world. And for their sakes I sanctify myself, that they also might be sanctified through the truth.

Jesus in John 17:17 – 19.

  • I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Jesus in John 14:6.


Enjoy the Pursuit of Truths , that you may expand your mind, open your heart and seek through awareness and efforts… the spiritual graces of truths.